Hes 8 yrs old (blue) and the other one is 7 (Bobbi) aka pig swine and has ADHD. I say that its a cop-out, and those people are deceived into believing that an animal can give them the love that they are searching for, the love that can really only be provided by another human. Not a fair fight to be sure but if they have those avoidance issues, then you know that this could be a possibility/ /, I think it can also be a huge red flag for control issues. They dont love like humans and its unhealthy for both dog and owner to be apart of that carp. Which was going well until now he hurt himself awhile ago and was sleeping in our room to watch him but now hes better and he said he loves having him in our room sleeping beside us so hes going to keep it that way. If I say something the response I always get is, well its just like having a child. I am seriously thinking of telling him to get lost because I dont need the constant complaining, especially since he has no control over his dog but ignores how well my dog listens. He trained him to use a dog litter box & always kept him in a cage ( big outdoor sized cage that he kept in extra bedroom of his house) bc the dog was never actually house trainedpees everywhere, marks territory all over the place, poops on any rug he sees, charges after people, will bite if anyone touches his ears, will actually lay in his littler box full of pee & poop.the definition of nasty & disgusting! All similar to you except she got a second one to keep company of the first one! He still lived with his family. I have read many comments that put the blame on the SO who has the issue with the pet. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or I like his presence there with me so it works. Fine. OK so I have a dog and three cats. Ive had to go out to the store and pick up her food the last 2 times (with his money). However, because of your extreme allergies at the end of the day they are animals and you are a human and if you get to a point where you literally cant carry on living that way, I think you are well in your right to find a different home for these furry friends. for 4 years. Humans cannot birth dogs. Recently, a neighbors dog broke into our yard and ripped one of my dogs up pretty badly; my spouse wouldnt let me take the dog to the vet for 3 days to see if her foreleg was broken or not, nor to stitch up the 3-in long, inch wide and half inch deep slash under one of her eyes. But that does not happen. This isnt acceptable behavior by the one that is suppose to make you feel loved, trusted, and safe Confused. So my (27F) boyfriend (32M) lives with me. Im just overwhelmed w it. Thank you so much for your words of kindness and caution. He brings the dog on our dates. I ask if has ever yelled at her or hit or kicked her or anything that she would be afraid of him but he always says no she just doesnt listen to me. She jumped in bed with us one time when we were intimate. She just knows my girlfriend will spaz on her too if she admits it. Husband finds this cute. Run while you can 9 months dont seem like much in the grand scheme of things. He said the dog would look at him at night and then would get off the sofa and go to bed. I would never actually follow through with that threat, but there will never be another animal in the house as long as I am living in it, and if she puts me in this situation ever again, we are done. Then, throwing that dog into a two (or more) person household, after having had the obsession/attention of their owner for so long, is a recipe for disaster. Wife of 31 years loves her three small little yippers. Rescue your marriage: find a new, permanent home for the dog and dont buy any more animals without first talking it through. I am experiencing all of a sudden this painful feeling of being back-stabbed. Because they are animals. It might even be something that helps you decide if you want to take the . I feel like we cant plan our future together as long as the dog does not change his behaviour ! He then comes back into the room I am in, starts cussing and ranting about how he is so sick of seeing dog piss in the floor and that I can either get rid of the dog or he will do something about it, incinuating he will either get rid of it or kill it. I also have to watch them when hes out of town which is several times a year. If you do so, you will see a huge improvement within a week or two. Which I dont mind playing sometimes. I cant fathom the fact that the dogs are more important than me! I love my dog and it hurts me when I see him getting treated this way while I try to treat both of them fair. When she says I murdered it shes not being facetious; she literally believes, and has said repeatedly, that putting that dog down was dog murder despite the vet thought it was long past time. I cannot tolerate it. Please treat them as such. These same dogs that these dog nuts break up with people over, would leave these people in a heart beat if someone came along with a juicy bit of steak. The same paws they use to trample on s*** and p*** are the same paws they walk all over your bed with. Which means that, over the next 10-15 years, all the people in that dog owners life are going to suffer from it. Im not sure what to believe. My wife and I have disagreements about our dogs, but in the end its resolved because we have boundaries. I think you need to keep putting your foot down because you will be married soon and you have to matter. She sadly ended up passing and left behind a small dog. He treats her the same as yours does his dog. i can understand not wanting the dog in bed. I have started hating that cat, have become extremely resentful and am considering divorce though that would be the last resort. Responsibility I believe is key. So true! His dog sheds a full coat of hair every DAMN DAY. If you cant be bothered to put in the time to make that happen, then dont get a partner because its not fair on them. Ive tried to make accomodation after accomodation for my husband of five years. And then all those hairs EVERYWHERE and a constant smell of ammonia of all the pee in the house. Just as I clean after his 12 year old son who is completely capable of picking up after himself. I dont think this is healthy for the dogs and its definitely not healthy for our relationship. He walks the dog on one of those telescoping leashes which makes us difficult to walk the dogs together (my dog stays to my left at all times), and last weekend at the park a little girl was running and didnt see the leash and almost fell. As time goes on I thought I may get used to it as I force myself to accept things. Unfortunately, the hair is still an issue. Its similar to the theory of our subconscious playing out in our dreams and that its a sign of our innermost desires. He compliments the dog and acts like its his actual girlfriend. When that happens, they encourage and foster an unhealthy bond/obsession with their dogs, which has psychological repercussions for both the animal and the human. i just feel that a lot of time goes to these animals and thats taking away time from our marriage. to get off of the couch to go get a treat he had for her hed say She doesnt have to, shes the queen! He hurt me deeply and there were times I absolutely hated the animal because she was the agent of my pain. My husband was on board and his only stipulation was that he wanted a dog that stayed small. Thats when I moved into the 2nd bedroom. I stated I would not and she leaves. They lack human thought and cognitive ability but she trained them to misbehave by rewarding bad behavior. B Husband/boyfriend has an extravagant amount of responsibility for the canine. Giving affection isnt sufficient. I am to the end of my rope. He continues to pee everywhere. This is the 5th time its happened and I dont want to live with this dog anymore. Im in a high security high stress job. Shes a decently trained dog though, she knows to do her business outside, she listens after the third time you tell her and for the most part is well mannered. He says I should be happy with the one dog I have now, and where i appreciate him allowing the dog to live with us, I cannot shake the feeling of being incomplete. The one you presented is simply the most popular. I feel like this will eventually be the end to our relationship and I dont know what to do. Im so glad to hear that. Except hes getting attacked he will defend himself. Also, every time we eat, he stands right next to us at the table breathing heavy and drooling and I tell him to go away and my wife tells me not to get mad at him. Oh dear I feel you pain but for sure I would get rid of it very fast. More and more lately if I move him somewhere he doesnt want to go. I have mild allergies so she irritates my nose when in close proximity not to mention I think a dog in bed is so unsanitary. Also, perhaps its not even necessarily your dog that he is annoyed by, but the way you are *treating* your dog. This is keeping me very busy the last days and I feel like one dog has to go if I want to keep my relationship. He eats what he tears up and throws it up so we have that mess to clean up too. Have faith that what you feel is correct. Pulls stuff off of counters, poops, pees, tears up the carpet has eaten door jams, broke through doors etc. Our older dog is a big rottweiler. Now with my partner its so different. He said, very firmly, youre not getting a dog so I asked him again why not. Also this puppy is a Pitbull and my partner knows Im scared of these types of dogs. I want to focus on our marriage and we want to travel together, I moved to the US for him, so we want to visit my home country regularly and also visit other places. and cherry on top she has a problem when we cuddle and affectionate. Im about fed up with this dog and ready to get rid of it but I know my boyfriend is not. My HUSBAND wanted a dog more than I. I like dogs, not love them. But my dogs have never slept in my room. Any helpful advice please? There are so many people in the world who actually LIKE dogs, it is pointless to waste time on ones who dont. I actually wanted to leave in the very beginning, but tried to make it work. We have been together 8 years and married for 6. Most arguments over pets come from the primary owner making excuses for them. The other, well, really only second rate by comparison. Unfortunately, I can give an example how you could end up in such a predicament. Cant you teach an old dog new tricks? Like one full week for leave it. I feel like this is the last straw, like my opinion doesnt matter. I have to be at work by 8am, Steve only works at 10am. The smell, the barking, the poop, the wee, the high medical cost etc. It will only get worse as time goes on and he neglects/takes you for granted. Get the dog a doggy bed and keep him off of yours. The other issue is she is so lazy with him. She has told me and her parents that she feels the same way. Every command is met with the resistance of a spoiled child. Then my partner came into my life. Some people regard these dogs over their human companion which I think is absolutely disgusting. You can still love the crap out of your dogs and maintain a respectful dog owner relationship. So, lets see what you can do about this. All I know is that its really frustrating. She hardly barks and does not defecate or urinate in the home. My husband and I have 5 kids. I really like this girl, and I overheard her tell my friends fiancee one night that she can see herself marrying me and hopes I propose to her within two years. As you all are probably aware theses types of dogs shed badly, he also smells, and he constantly in the way (when I am trying to get in my car with my toddler and infant.) I was in a long distance relationship for a very long time and recently uprooted to move all the way across the country to be with my significant other. It just makes me sick. I went through a very lonely period in my life after a break up from my then fiance and I got Nappy, a male shitzu, to help with my loneliness. It jumps on dinner table begging for food and has scratched the couch to death( we had to get a new cover for the couch) i tried to accept it and invested my time in training it, it responded and stopped doing the bad things for a while but my husband messed with its brains by deliberately putting her on the couch/bed and giving it treats on the couch inspite of me pleading not to, that the cat has gone back to its despicable behaviour. Fortunately I dont have that issue. Usually in the winter she stays in. My fiance and i have been together for almost 3 years. I did not want another dog. Did I mention that I have to carry him down the stairs & soon will need to carry up the stairs. Both you and your boyfriend are investing a lot of time and emotional energy into the dogs. While her parents dont mind watching her dog, especially since he keeps their dog company, they dont like having him for long periods of time because hes just as needy as their dog. He wont let me instill any discipline in the dog whatsoever. Its not healthy or normal, its almost a form of mental illness in itself like they have not been successful at having healthy, meaningful relationships with other humans, so they turn to dogs. It went something like this: I was looking at brochures to get decorating ideas for the babys nursery. Im just mad. My issue with my spouse and his dog is the dog, an animal, usurped me, given higher value, and more cherished than his wife. There is no chance in hell after half a decade of being with someone would i let them disrespect me that way. He thinks dogs belong outside. Just have patience. On top of that, one of the dogs has shown aggression to another dog and has mauled him very bad. It saddens me terribly to think of loosing my dog. She has said she supports my dream. Family dogs always seem more well adjusted and a lot less anxious or needy. Omg, I hate that. My sister has five dogs same thing. Omg! First and foremost, our pets are like our kids. But its never too late to get up on your feet, face the reality, and march forward. He sincerely believes his quality of life would diminish if he couldnt sleep with his furry friend and I know that I would grow to detest that animal. Your husband sounds like a very nasty man. Mid January, we adopted a shelter dog. Lady your dog is leading your life. Get another dog and let them play on their own. She tried to intervene but it wouldnt stop, biting me a few times. When the oldest was 4, I adopted my sisters cat who had been displaced because she got a Labrador retriever and the dogs behavior relegated him to the basement. Before we got married my DH slept with his dog. When youre old, your spouse will be there by your side taking care of you. This is so frustrating. My current girlfriend is pushing for us to live together, she has a parrot and two dogs. If so, necessary actions can be taken just by following your vets advice. He said if he stayed up to watch TV, the dog would bark at him to come to bed. I walk the darn thing all week and would love my husband to want to come out with me at the weekend. In your own situation, step back and ask yourself why you are still living with him? Help. Bubby, yes it appears that many people are experiencing the same thing as you are. Im just so overwhelmed. He paid for her happily, he bought tonnes of new things happily, he paid for her spayed happily, he made her a beautiful wood bed, with memory foam mattress, happily. Then in October she said that she would put in an effort to get him a new homeover five months later she has done nothing to find the dog a new home. he kept insisting that the dogs had to be on the bed, there was black dirty, a TON of hair and even drips of pee on the sheet! Its seemed like she was in love with him! Me and several babies hes managed to kick to death inside me. When we first moved in together almost a year ago, I told my boyfriend that i dont let animals sleep in the bed (even my two cats whom I love to death), and he said that was fine with him. To say I should disregard so many years of love and affection because I didnt do my due diligence to makes sure she didnt sleep with her dog seems ridiculous. If a person has a dog, and enters a relationship with an individual who dislikes the dog, it is unfair for both parties to be throwing ultimatums around. Sometimes I got short breathed because of all the dog hair that is flying through the air and I cant sleep because of all the movements on the bed and the noises. She freaked and bit me. IMO dogs are pack animals and do better in family situations anyway, so being forced into a solitary situation with one single person creates a LOT of anxiety and behavior problems (aka, like your girlfriends dog). Forgive me when I say this but as soon as I finally was able to graba hold of him I immediately ran inside the apartment, and started to hit him on his bum bum and yell at him! If the dog is the cause of many conflicts in your family, its a good idea to consult a professional psychologist to seek help. My wife and daughter and son are in a combined hate campaign against me because i put them out in the garden and leave them if im left in the house with them, she feeds them on expensive dentistix, and the wont eatbarley anthing else now. Hes well trained but has been acting out whenever my husband is involved. On the flip side hes upset with me because Id even ask him to do this. Its been 6 weeks now, and I still sob. its driving me crazy, and im fearing it will be too difficult for me to tolerate, soon. He just called me a pig because I ate a sandwich and didnt save any for the dogs. I knew he was cuddling her and letting her lick his lips. He wanted a baby so hopefully he will enjoy our baby. If you love nice clean things, Im sorry but you arent going to have that in the dog house so youll have to put that out of your mind until he/she passes and you dont get another. We were supposed to go on a vacation when I came back. 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